You can still rise after a defining moment. D. Nicole

You can still rise after a defining moment.
D. Nicole

I use to think that being married defined who I was.  I have to admit that being a wife and having a husband felt good.  I felt good when I talked about my husband this and my husband that.  Even though it was not a good marriage, I still took pleasure in the fact that I was married.

Then the marriage completely fell apart and I didn’t know who I was anymore.  Being married was such a huge part of who I thought I was and when that was gone I felt lost.  Going through the divorce turned me inside out.  I guess you could say I went through a transformation.  It took every ounce of energy I had to keep it all together.  For my kids sake I had to persevere.  Five years has past since the divorce and were just starting to get better.

Just when I thought I knew who I was and nothing was ever going to define me, I lost my job.  Here I am divorced with two kids and no job.

It did not realize that having a career was part of my identity, until one day I was having a conversation with a complete stranger in the grocery store.  He told me about himself then asked, “what do you do?”  The only thing that came to my mind to say was, “oh I live in this area to”.

After that day I started thinking what should I tell people.  Should I say I’m out of work, a stay home mom, or in between jobs.  This was starting to weigh on me even more so than the fact that I didn’t know how I was going to pay my bills. I feel like not having a job makes me less of a person almost helpless.

Defining moments, what defines you?

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